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The Truth about Hair Care


Shampoo is hair-washing detergent. Its main mission is to clean your hair, removing dirt and the natural oils that accumulate in unwashed hair. Since the main job is to clean your hair, not add body or volume or shine or bounce or manageability, your shampoo should not leave anything behind in your hair. When you rinse it out, your hair should be clean. If you don’t know what clean feels like, try washing your hair with dish-washing liquid. It may be a little harsh, but it will give you the experience of what clean hair feels like. Once you know that feeling, buy the cheapest shampoo you can find that gives you that feeling. Don’t use shampoos that include conditioner. The job of leaving something behind in your hair is at odds with the job of cleaning your hair. It will do neither job well. Don’t do it.

After washing your hair, if you like it when it is dry, you are done. Style it however you like and go about your day.

If your hair becomes frizzy or limp or flat or dull or anything you don’t like, you can add product to it to make it more likable. Don’t use rinse-out conditioner. Why would you add something to your hair to obtain a particular effect and then rinse out 90% of it? Use leave-in conditioner. Use whatever conditioner you like. It doesn’t have to be the same brand as your shampoo. If you just want to be able to get a comb through it, try a little olive oil. If you don’t want to smell like a Mediterranean deli, try something with a smell you like. Keep in mind that whatever you put in your hair has to come out the next time you wash it. If you use product that binds to your hair, such as products that “repair” split ends, you will have a harder time washing them out.


Forsaken by God


Those who know your name trust in you, for you, Lord, have never forsaken those who seek you. -Psalm 9:10

God never forsakes those who trust him. So it is tempting to conclude when we feel forsaken that we have insufficient faith or we haven’t sought him enough. But Jesus himself felt forsaken: “My God, my God, why have you forsaken me?” It was not because he lacked faith or did not seek his Father’s will enough. Nor was it because his Father abandoned him. It was because the trial he faced, he had to face without feeling his Father’s presence. Sometimes God asks us to face trials where we cannot sense his presence. We feel abandoned. We feel forsaken. He asks us to keep on trusting him despite how we feel. He will not upbraid us if we cry out, “Why have you forsaken me?” If Jesus could ask this question without sin, we can do the same.


The Dangers of Outrage


It’s hard not to be outraged by news on the Internet. Sites dependent on advertising revenue use just a few tricks to drive user engagement (measured by time on site, likes and shares on social media, and clicks to related content). Headlines framed as questions (Is Google the New Evil Empire?), links that tell readers how they will feel (You will be shocked…), and, of course, content designed to provoke outrage are all angling for your attention. So much of what passes for news on the Internet seems to be aimed at our reptilian brains—provoking fear, anger, or lust.

The further you get from established, mainstream news, the more likely you are to see content framed in such a way as to provoke outrage. If you are a Facebook junkie like me, then you already know which of your friends can be counted on to share the most outrageous articles. Outrage is a response; sometimes it’s easy to forget that it’s not the only response.

Outrage is not a benign response. It may raise your blood pressure or make you hot under the collar. It may elevate your stress level, but there are more pernicious effects. To feel moral outrage, especially, requires a belief in one’s own decency, a belief that starts with, “I would never do…” or “How can anyone…” Implicit is the belief that I and my tribe are morally superior. Those people who have done despicable things are from a different tribe, perhaps different enough that they don’t deserve humane treatment.

This is where outrage becomes really ugly. Not content with denouncing bad behavior, I may even condone violence done to avenge it. This may take the form of hateful speech or comments or mere silence when I see “those people” getting what they deserve. Will I speak up for them if their own rights are trammelled? Outrage leaves little room for mercy.

The greatest danger of outrage, however, is that it accomplishes nothing. Sure, I might share a post about some miscarriage of justice, and it’s gratifying to find that my friends agree with me, but it takes real work and sacrifice to correct and prevent injustice. Outrage feels like enough, but it isn’t.